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5 Reasons Why You Are Not Successful With Brazilian Women

While Brazil is a great country with incredibly sexy women that ooze nonstop sexuality, it’s not exactly a place where you’ll be getting a blowjob as soon as you get off the plane. Nothing is guaranteed.

Here are a few things that will tank your chances of capturing that beautiful Brazilian woman.

Not being aggressive enough

Brazilian women are used to very aggressive men who will stop at nothing to get what they want. In fact, in all my times of going out in different countries, I have rarely met more confident and composed men than Brazilians. These guys definitely have balls.

Unfortunately, if you’re shy and reserved and don’t show the same audacity when pursuing women, the woman you’re pursuing might think that you’re either not interested in her or are gay. Both of these outcomes aren’t favorable to you and will just serve to lower her interest in you. 

Don’t speak Portuguese

While it’s very common to assume that since English is an international language, and that everyone speaks it to a certain degree abroad, the reality is that the only people who will speak fluent English would be Brazilians who’ve either lived in an English-speaking country or those who work in the tourism industry. (Additionally, you can throw wealthy Brazilians into this mix as well since they’re the only wants who can afford to send their children to study abroad or, at least, hire a nanny for them.)

This means that you won’t have access to the other 95% of the population who doesn’t speak English or at least doesn’t speak it comfortably enough where you’re able to build a genuinely intimate connection for the girl to feel comfortable with you.

One of the first things I did when I arrived in Brazil was begin studying Portuguese. Although it took a while before I became comfortable with it, become fluent in Portuguese has been one of the major advantage to my success with the women in the country. Don’t believe for a second that merely knowing English would be enough.

Aren’t staying in the country for too long

Many people think that Brazilian women are so easy that all it takes is one weekend to sleep with as many women as you want. Thus, the idea that someone can fly into the country on Thursday or Friday, meet lots of women at the bars or clubs on the weekend, have lots of sex, and then fly back home on Monday. This is far from the truth.

Brazilian women are fairly conservative (by Latin American standards), so the standard three-day rule applies. I would say you need at least a solid month in order to have enough time to sleep with at least one woman.

Targeting women who aren’t into gringos

My experience in Brazil has shown that there are two types of women: those who date Brazilian men and foreigners and those who only date Brazilian men. 

The explanation for this is that, unlike in other countries such as Russia or Ukraine where lots of women are open to dating foreigners, Brazilian men are generally fit, confident and good-looking, possessing all the qualities that women want. 

However, there are women that, for one reason or another, prefer to go the foreigner route. These are the women that may have traveled or lived abroad. They may be more “sensitive” and are repelled by the aggressive nature of Brazilian guys. Or, a combination of these and other factors, too.

Thus, your mission is study and understand Brazilian women and only go for the women who are open to dating foreigners as well as their own kind.

Believe that Brazilian women don’t need to be “gamed”

There’s also a widespread myth that, just because, they’re Brazilian women, it’s not necessary to seduce them like typical women (e.g., American women). Actually, that’s nothing more than a myth. 

A Brazilian woman isn’t just going to go home with you because you’re a man and she’s a sexy Brazilian woman. They need to be seduced just like any other kind of woman. In fact, I would argue that, compared to very promiscuous American women, which don’t require much seduction beyond a few shots of vodka. Don’t make the rookie mistake that you can just show up, meet a Brazilian woman and take her home.

Final thoughts

Now that you know the factors that have befallen the men behind you, you will arrive to Brazil knowing exactly what to do and what not to do. Best of luck and happy travels.

  • June 13, 2019

Brazilian Dating Culture

Brazilian dating is direct and straightforward, especially compared to American or European dating culture. Brazilian women play little to no games and are direct with their needs and desires. However, as a foreigner, there are certain things that you must absolutely know.

The kiss

The first rule of dating in Brazil is the kiss rule. Kissing between a man and a woman—I’m referring to strong and passionate kissing—is treated not much more than a handshake. Thus, it’s typically very common to kiss a woman you just meet after 10-15 mins of knowing her.

Of course, this is not a quick and fast rule and it’s not something that will happen all the time, but if there’s a connection between you and the girl and your faces are physically close to each other, you shouldn’t have any issues directly kissing the girl.

While I used to be uncomfortable and uncalibrated kissing women this early in the game, after spending a few weeks in Brazil, kissing women so fast became just a normal part of the game and something I learned to do very naturally.

Nevertheless, a kiss, especially one that happens so quickly doesn’t really mean much. I’ve gone out many times in Brazil and learned that most women will kiss indiscriminately, but getting much more intimate is another story. In fact, I can’t tell you how often I’ve met girls at bars or clubs, made out with them all night long, went on a second date, made out with them even longer and then when it came to sex and taking our relationship further, things fizzled out very quickly.

Just remember: a kiss is simply a kiss and nothing more. They’re so common that they’re close to meaningless. The only thing that a kiss means is that you’ve established sexual attraction between you and the woman and that you have zero interest in having a platonic friendship with her. That’s important because you’ve also demonstrated that you’re a man who isn’t afraid to go for what you want.

After the kiss

Typically, the kiss should either when you first met (in the bar, club, etc) or on the first date (if you met online, or on the street and you only had a chance to get her number). In other words, if you’ve already met in a romantic setting, and have talked to her for more than 15-20 minutes, you should have gotten the kiss already. In fact, some of the Brazilian women will feel weird if you hadn’t tried to kiss them early on (more on this later).

Many people are surprised to learn just how conservative Brazilian women can be. But they are. Having traveled to Eastern Europe, I would say they’re even more conservative than Eastern European women and even more so than Vietnamese women.

I used to have a friend, an Argentine guy who liked to party and meet Brazilian women. He claimed to be able to take a good number of Brazilian women home. When I asked for his secret, he told me it was to be more aggressive. But he was also 6’4”, dark and fairly handsome. He was also an Argentine guy, and, from my experience, Brazilian women tend to like Argentine guys and vice versa.

Exceptions of one-night stands aside, here’s what the progression of your dating with a Brazilian will be like. For the first date, I would advice meeting her for something casual like drinks at a chill bar, restaurant or, better yet, some outdoor lounge.

When it came to the first date, one of my favorite places in Rio was Lagoa (which means Lake). There were a bunch of chill bars that served various cocktails. It was dark and intimate, and plus, the two of you could sit next to each other as well, perfect for getting to know each other further and getting physical.

For the second date, you can take her to another restaurant or bar, but a much better idea would be something like meeting her at the beach and then hanging out with her throughout the day. If you’re in a beach city like Rio de Janeiro, agree to meet her at the beach at a particular “Posto.” Enjoy the beach for a few hours and then once it starts to cool down (3-4 pm), go for a walk along the beach, have some juice or a light meal.

The purpose of this date is to keep building comfort. Since attraction was already established when you first met (otherwise she wouldn’t have agreed to see you again), right now your main goal is to establish comfort. When you spend time with a woman before sex that tells her that you will probably stick around after you have sex with her. (In biological terms that signifies that you will stick around to take care of the offspring and not simply run off if she gets pregnant. Of course, with modern contraceptives such as condoms and birth control pills that’s no longer true, but the brain adapts slower than technology.)

The amount of time you spend with the woman will depend on how fast she becomes comfortable with you. I typically aim to have sex by date 3 at the latest, but will also push for it earlier. Remember that Brazil is unlike your Western country and women value men who are aggressive in trying to get what they want. Brazilian men are super aggressive, so it helps to be aggressive yourself, otherwise, if you’re too soft and passive, a woman might think you’re either not interested in her sexually or just gay.

Being aggressive

There’s a double standard when it comes to being aggressive with Brazilian women. While Brazilian guys are known to be super aggressive with their women, the double standard is that foreigners have less leeway to do the same than Brazilian men. The reason is that it’s expected for Brazilian to be aggressive—they’re Brazilian!—but if a foreigner does this, there’s a stigma that because he’s a foreigner, he believes that all Brazilian women are easy and being aggressive will actually turn women off. I experienced this first hand when I was very aggressive with a woman that I met in the club. While I wasn’t particularly forceful, she was more resistant than I noticed with other women mostly because I was a foreigner. Had I been a local Brazilian guy, I’m pretty sure things would’ve worked out differently.

Instead, what I advocate is the “cool guy” approach. When you meet her on a date, just act cool and relaxed and don’t worry about how Brazilians act. Of course, you should be aggressive, but don’t be overly aggressive. When you act this way, you won’t automatically trigger her “gringo” failsafe switch and she’ll continue to spend time with you while you’re seducing her.

Eventually, after spending lots of time with her and building lots of comfort, she’ll hopefully won’t resist the offer to come back to your place and have hot and passionate sex.

Ultimately, the biggest difference between Brazilian dating culture and American is that Brazilian women are more direct than American women. They play fewer games and intimacy happens much quicker. In fact, one of my most interesting moments happened when I met a great girl, we were enjoying each other’s company and within 20-25 mins of me meeting her, she kept telling me how much she liked me. This would never happen in America, or, probably, elsewhere in the world.

  • June 11, 2019

The Best City To Meet Brazilian Women

Introduction

One thing you must understand about Brazil is that, although Brazil is a single country, it’s extremely diverse, much more diverse than similar-sized countries like USA, Canada or Australia. 

For instance, Rio de Janeiro is a city that’s entirely different from Belo Horizonte which is only eight hours to the north. 

Both are very different from São Paolo, one of the largest cities in the world which is more similar to New York City than other cities.

Then there’s the south of Brazil which doesn’t even resemble “Brazil” and the north, which is very “Brazilian.” 

The women

Naturally, depending on where you go, the women will be different as well.

Most of my experience was in Rio de Janeiro, where the women are outgoing, friendly and exude that sexiness that Brazilian women are known for. 

Physically, they had olive skin and, for the most part, resembled Europeans such as Portuguese, Italians or Spaniards. 

South of Rio de Janeiro

If you head to a city such as São Paolo, the women will typically be lighter and even more European-looking. Lots of women will be of Italian descent, similar to the neighboring Argentina, but definitely friendlier.

Heading further south to cities such as Curitiba and Florianopolis, and you’ll suddenly realize that you left Brazil and are somewhere in Europe. 

The women there will resemble nothing of their Rio de Janeiro counterparts, but will still be friendlier, exuding the familiar Brazilian sexiness and sensuality.

The last big city in the south is Porto Alegre and the women there will be a bit colder than women in Rio de Janeiro, but still very friendlier.

North of Rio de Janeiro

Belo Horizonte is a big city in a state called Minas Gerais, and when I lived there, I found the women to be super friendly and approachable. 

They were even friendlier in neighboring cities such as Juiz de Fora (I once dated a girl there for a while) and Uberlandia. 

Both cities are excellent options for friendly, down-to-earth, country type women.

Head further inland, and you’re getting into the “Texas” of Brazil with country music, forro dancing, and lots of friendly women.

I met my first Brazilian girlfriend in a San Francisco supermarket. She was from Goiania, a region right in the heart of Brazil. 

She was one of the friendliest and sexiest I’ve ever met. We dated for about two years and then headed our separate ways.

Bahia and beyond

Bahia, the state to the Northeast of Rio de Janeiro is, by all accounts and stereotypes, the “real” Brazil. That’s the home of the famous song “Lambada.” 

 

The women are darker, influenced by their African heritage. That’s also the case as you head further north into states such as Sergipe, Alagoas, Paraiba and Rio Grande de Norte.

Of course, not all of the women will black; there are lighter skinned European descendants, but it will completely different than in southern states such as Parana and Rio de Grande Do Sul.

The bottom line

So, what’s the best city?

If you like sexy European-looking women with olive skin who are full of themselves, head to Rio de Janeiro.

If you like cosmopolitan, big-city women of European descent, head to São Paolo.

If you like skinny blondes with small asses, head to Florianopolis and Porto Alegre.

If you like black Brazilian women with big asses, head to Bahia and keep going north.

If you’re up for a challenge, check out Amazonas region. I had a friend there who had a great time and met some amazing women.

Final thoughts

Brazil’s slogan is “O pais para todos” (a country for everyone). And, indeed, it’s such a diverse country that pretty much anyone can find there something that they’re looking for.

Whether it’s women, climate, or just a different way of life, you’ll find it in Brazil.

  • October 22, 2018

6 Common Myths That Westerners Still Believe About Brazilian Women

‘Excuse me, how much is one scoop of ice cream?’ a cute woman with dark and wavy hair inquired while pointing to the array of colorful ice creams behind the counter window. She was standing in front of me in an organic ice cream shop here in Bali, Indonesia.

I immediately realized the accent. There was no way I could miss it. It was none other than that sweet and melodic Brazilian Portuguese. And she was none other than Brazilian; from the marvelous city of Rio de Janeiro.

I smiled at her. After she reciprocated with her trademark Brazilian smile, I immediately asked her, “So, what’s a Carioca doing in Bali, Indonesia?”

It has been a long time since I met and spent time with a Brazilian woman. Way too long. The more time I spent with her, the more I thought about all the stereotypes that are perpetuated by Western men and media that bear absolutely no resemblance to reality.

As someone who had spent lots of time in Brazil and went out with lots of Brazilian women, I think it’s time to debunk the most common myths—and there are plenty— and set the record straight once and for all about what Brazilian women are really like.

Brazilian women are extremely easy

Ask any American guy—even if he hasn’t stepped foot outside America—what he thinks about Brazilian women and there’s a good chance that he’ll use the following two adjectives to describe the country’s women: sexy and easy.

I really can’t fault him. I used to think the exact same thing—before I went to Brazil. As it turned out, I was only half right. Although they’re sexy, they’re far from easy. Actually, when you compare them to any traditional type of woman such as the ones I’ve been dating in Ukraine or other Eastern European countries, I would rate Brazilian women as more traditional than “Western.” One night stands were rare. Escalation was slow and gradual. It’s the same “three day” rule that exists pretty much everywhere, that is outside the more feminist Anglo-Saxon world.

Brazilian women love foreigners (especially Westerners with pasty white skin)

When I was planning my first trip to Rio de Janeiro, someone was telling me that Brazilian women absolutely love foreigners. Being a European guy who grew up in America, I thought that I will be getting head the moment I stopped of the plane—right in the airport’s bathroom. Let’s just say that I was completely off the mark.

First of all, Brazil receives lots and lots of foreigners—who hasn’t heard of Brazil?—so being a foreigner is no longer—has it been ever?—much of a novelty. Rio de Janeirodefinitely gets the brunt of this; when I lived there there five years ago, it was overridden with foreigners, so I can’t imagine what’s it like now after the World Cup, or what it’ll be like after the upcoming Olympics games.

As a result, Brazilian women have adopted pretty well to ‘gringos’ (foreigners) who’re coming to seduce and sleep with them. I’d even go as far as to categorize Brazilian women into two camps: those who exclusively date fellow Brazilian men and those who’re open to dating foreigners. It helps to remember that Brazilian guysare great looking, confident, patient and are overall smooth seducers (they’re expert seducers when it comes to just about any women, whether she’s Brazilian or foreign — American, Danish, Russian, etc.)

All this means that you won’t feel very “exotic” when you step of the plane or bus in Brazil. The women will know why you’re there and what you want.

Brazilian women love to have sex 24-7

Sexy is probably the first word that comes to mind when you think of Brazil and its women. And with good reason: Brazilian women are some of the most sexiest in the world. They have beautifully curvy and tanned bodies. They move in a certain sexy way unlike pretty much any other nationality on the planet; I can almost always just know that a woman is Brazilian. It’s in her sexy body language.

Then there’s also the annual festival called Carnivalreplete with the sexy Samba dancers wearing almost nothing. Let’s also not forget a Brazilian woman’s favorite beach attire: the “fio dental” (dental floss) bikini, which is as thin as—you guessed it—dental floss.

Thus, one can’t really blame the misguided foreigner to believe that Brazilian women love to have sex 24-7.

This is nothing more than a grand illusion. The clothing that Brazilian women wear doesn’t mean that they’re ready to remove it at a moment’s notice and have sex with you then and there. It doesn’t mean that every woman you meet would want to jump your bones the second she realizes she likes you. No, it doesn’t work like this.

While sex is always in the cards, I would say Brazilian women are simply more comfortable with their bodies than, for example, women who come from more frigid countries like Finland or Norway.

Brazilian women prefer one-night stands over more serious relationships

Another great myth that’s been spreading around pickup blogs and other male-oriented sites since the beginning of time is that Brazilian women love one-night stands as much—if not more—than their Westernized and feministic counterparts, such as American or English women. Again, this couldn’t be farther away from the truth.

Out of all of the women that I went out with in Brazil (there were plenty), I can probably count one hand—how many of those women went home with me on the same night. To say that one-night stands are rare in Brazil would be a grand understatement.

Of course, it’s possible to meet ‘easier’ women in more Westernizedparts in the country (also in some clubs frequented by gringos and gringo hunters), but coming to Brazil and with the sole aim of expecting to sleep with women the same night is a beyond ludicrous. I’d even go as far as to say if all you’re interested in are one night stands, Brazil really isn’t your country. Just stay put in America or England.

Brazilian women don’t require any seduction skills whatsoever

Another one of the great myths is that Brazilian women don’t require any seduction skills whatsoever. I’ve heard this mentioned over and over again, both online and offline: as a man, all you have to do is show up and seduction will happen “automagically.” You simply show up, smile, and, before you know it, you’re having hard sex.

Again, this is also false. While Brazilian women don’t require the “game” you’re taught in America or England—and this “game” is useless outside America or England anyway—you still need to approach and make your intentions clear. There’s more of a direct approach without all the ridiculous aloofness, the teases, the negs, the endless banter, etc. Brazilian women love to be seduced in a confidently and self-assured manner.

Brazilian women are used to and respect such behavior because that’s how Brazilian guys act. Even if you’re a gringo, they expect you to act the same. As opposed to Western guys who are usually scared of approaching, Brazilian guys don’t need to get wasted, motivation or lots of encouragement to pursue a woman they desire. They just make eye contact and go. This is what will be expected of you as well.

All Brazilian women want to find a rich gringo and immigrate to America

This stereotype seems to be as old as the planet Earth itself. Since women from developing countries are poorer than those from developed countries, they’re all opportunists who’re looking to use Western men as a stepping stone to a better life, or so goes the common thought. I’ve witnessed it used with Latin American women, Eastern European women as well as Southeast Asian women.

While there’s some truth to it— there are plenty of gold-diggers that are after your coveted American or [insert your rich country here] passport — it doesn’t really apply to Brazil as much. Brazil is a rapidly developing country and the women you meet in the major cities (e.g., Rio, Sao Paulo, etc) would hardly be interesting in dropping everything they’ve built in order to start a new life in some sterile and feministic Western country where relationships are confusing and men are sissies.

Once you do arrive to Brazil—and if you’re serious about experiencing a different kind of life—and it’s your duty as a heterosexual man, you’ll realize that things are very different on the ground; that the wonderful creature known world over as the Brazilian woman can never be done justice using shallow and simple sentences that attempt to explain her complex and sensual behavior.

Actually, come to think of it, Western stereotypes appear to be nothing more than a projection of shallow and superficial insecurities and beliefs—an artifact of Western culture—to sexy foreign women.

  • October 22, 2018